Just this morning, another controversial issue about Governor Chavit Singson was being discussed on television. I don't watch TV often because I am paranoid and I've been thinking that I have a high level of mean world syndrome, so in order to feel safe, I'd rather avoid watching television shows especially news programs.
I wasn't listening at first when I saw him on screen, I'm used to seeing Mr. Singson on TV explaining his side regarding national issues, but he was talking about something different this morning. According to the news, the former governor had beaten up his common law wife when he found out that she is having an affair with someone else. The woman sued the former governor of Ilocos Sur and accused of whipping her. As expected, the women's federation reacted on the incident and suggested the woman (whom they call Che) to file a domestic violence case against him. Mr. Singson's conversation with the TV host was somewhat funny or irritating. He was very safe with his answers and mock the host when he doesn't want to answer the question. He would say, "Bakit mo tinatanong, abodago ka ba?" or "Dapat mangyari sayo, para maintindihan mo.".
Mr. Singson would constantly say "Mabuti nga, hindi ko sila pinatay eh" in between his answers to every question that was being thrown to him.
I have few questions that I would like to raise now :What difference does it make when he betrayed his friend, Joseph Estrada that led to his forced resignation as president few years ago? Yes, you may say, these situations are two different things, and as a Filipino, I should feel glad that there is Chavit Singson to open the darkest cave of lies and corruption during Erap's administration. I've been hating Erap ever since, and I hated him even more when he ran for presidency, won, and being kicked out for stealing the fund of the Filipino masses. But this is not to say that I love Chavit for revealing all the wrongdoings of the former president. He may have served as the key to oust the cheat of the nation but I still never liked him for that. And now, there he is, complaining how deceitful his lover was for making him believe that she loves him when she was just needing his money from the start of their relationship. Well, we have a saying, 'when money talks, everybody listens.' Apparently, he and his colleagues have been having the best conversation with dollars and pesos. Why should I include money on this post? Simply because, Chavit was talking about huge amount of pesos during his conversation with the Umagang Kay Ganda TV host. Amazingly huge amount of money, enough to feed the street children, enough to build a school, enough to save the nation. Tsk, Chavit's woman might have probably been lying on a bed of cash, eating with a golden plate, and living on a glass house, enough to see the whole city and the faces of the people passing by and staring at their big mansion. A home where everything is visible... no wonder, she was able to see another man.
The second question is not an argument of how powerful Chavit Singson is to be capable of killing someone who did something offensive to him. It is an argument of who is what. The issue of domestic violence is highly considered and recognized on this case. Who found someone else? Who cheated? And who should take the blame for cheating behind someone else's back?
My man said, "Dapat lang mabugbog, nanloko eh".
A joke. Half meant.
So I asked, "So you mean to say you're going to beat me up if you find out that I'm having an affair with another man?"...with my hands on my waist.
"Why, are you going to find someone else?"
"Of course not".
"What if you will be the one to cheat, how am I going to beat you, you're stronger than I am".
A joke. With deep realization.
Apparently, I realized that the society still has and will always has a social hierarchy of gender. When Mr. Singson was asked if he is having an affair with other woman, he answered, "She knows that". What the heck! So why didn't his wife beat him up? Doesn't he deserve a whipping too?
